在太平洋亲子网读到的,和大家共勉之。
富养,要在物质上完全满足女儿?你错了;
富养,一定要让女儿琴棋书画样样精通?你又错了。
真正的富养女儿是指:从小要培养她的气质,开阔她的视野,增加她的阅世能力,增强她的见识,让她多识广、独立、有主见、有智慧,很清楚自己要的是什么,什么是真正值得追求的东西。
说白了,富养女孩的目的是,让女孩成长为知性高贵独立的优秀女性。
显然,富养女儿除了在物质上能满足女孩的需求外,更重要在女儿的气质、个人休养、学识上打造。重物质了,培养出来的女孩儿可能是一朵娇滴滴的美丽而带刺儿的温室花朵, 很多家长最容易踏进这几个误区:
1、吃的穿的用的是最好的,全身大牌家长慷慨赞助;
2、只有想不到,没有办不到,女儿想要的东西百分百满足;
3、十指不沾阳春水,读书学习的时间永远比劳动更珍贵;
4、琴棋书画英语舞蹈演讲,一周七种不同课程,惊喜不断
各位坚守“富养女儿”信条的家长请细心对照,看看哪一点自己在不知不觉中给犯了,可千万别误读了古训哦!
1、加点“穷养”,内心做个女汉子 小编一直认为,在这个男女平等的社会,男孩女孩都是父母的心头肉,都是社会的栋梁支柱,同样需要培养女孩吃苦耐劳、独立的品格。这首先体现在孩子自己的事情自己做,比如孩子到了学吃饭、学做家务的年纪,家长要适当“偷懒”,耐心等到孩子把事情做好。
2、加点“精养”,养出气质女神 富养就是养气质,有条件的话学学琴棋书画,陶冶情操。在家里,有意创造环境,让孩子学会关心别人,帮助别人。黄磊女儿多多不就是“精养”的典范吗?会弹琴会说英语,更会善解人意,这样一个“完美”的多多姐姐怎能不让人喜欢呢?
3、加点“乐养”,养出阳光小天使 在这一点上,陆毅就做得很好了。富养女儿还需要培养她乐观积极的性格,要让她有安全感和自信心。女儿伤心的时候,把她拥在怀里;女儿胆怯的时候,拍拍她的肩膀;女儿忧郁的时候,时常给她一个明媚的微笑;没事的时候,常和女儿静静地说点悄悄话……
还有一点就是,女孩对家庭的幸福感要求较高,我们在养育女孩的过程中,就要拿出更多的耐心与爱心,为我们的孩子营造一个温馨的成长环境。定期的亲子户外活动、平等有爱的相处方式,你又做到多少了呢?
4、少点“惯养”,让她从小知道“NO”
因为家里宠惯多了,只要我撒娇闹脾气往死里闹并且坚持到底,爸爸妈妈就会满足我配合我,别人对于我永远都是“YES”。要是这样的话,实在太可怕了。“富
养”并非“惯养”,孩子要“十分”,家长给她“六七分”就好了。孩子闹脾气,必要时要讲讲道理,要告诉她一些界线,让她知道别人会拒绝她,从小知道碰壁,
长大才能走得更稳、更远。
这篇写得好!
Thursday, August 21, 2014
Sunday, August 17, 2014
超市
最近很喜欢逛超市。看着食物心情可以很好。
然后最常买就是便条milo,因为都是带去工作地方喝的。然后就是看香肠啊,培根啊,沙拉菜啊,果酱,鲔鱼罐头之类的。都是早餐的材料。哈哈。现在我可省了,面包准备两份,早餐午餐都吃一样的。
现在都大概直到这些食品折扣钱的价钱,一碰上减价就会多买些。
有个apps还挺不错的,你可以查看当天超市有什么减价,还可以不同的超市作比较。
Smart shopper
试试找找看。
不过如果你要最新最新最完整的还是like 该超市的面子书页面,它们都会及时更新。
我最爱逛aeon big了。相对来比较,种类比较多,价钱有时还真的挺便宜的。
然后最常买就是便条milo,因为都是带去工作地方喝的。然后就是看香肠啊,培根啊,沙拉菜啊,果酱,鲔鱼罐头之类的。都是早餐的材料。哈哈。现在我可省了,面包准备两份,早餐午餐都吃一样的。
现在都大概直到这些食品折扣钱的价钱,一碰上减价就会多买些。
有个apps还挺不错的,你可以查看当天超市有什么减价,还可以不同的超市作比较。
Smart shopper
试试找找看。
不过如果你要最新最新最完整的还是like 该超市的面子书页面,它们都会及时更新。
我最爱逛aeon big了。相对来比较,种类比较多,价钱有时还真的挺便宜的。
Friday, August 15, 2014
小孩的钱很好赚
一直觉得居銮小孩衣服的选择不多,很难买到中意的。那天去了johor premium outlet,那里简直是天堂。新的 wing卖了很多小孩服饰的牌子。结果逛一下,花了三百块买女儿们的衣服。
要买他们的东西,那里是不错逛一下。
对于要买小孩其他的东西我就吝啬很多,能拖就拖,能不买就不买。
老公就比较果断,想买婴儿play pen 和car seat.
其实我们都不需要买婴儿床,她都跟我们睡。跟我们睡我喂奶也比较方便,都是边喂边睡的。大女儿在小的出世之前也喜欢跟我们挤一张床,所以买她们的床是不实际的。又不是很便宜。结果她现在会翻了,翻了又躺回去,翻来滚去,放她在床上,两只眼睛就要一直盯着。算了,还是买张playpen吧。至少不用担心她会掉下床。之前试过放她在地板上的床褥,还是会翻下来。对五个月的她来说还是太惊险了。
Car seat呢,现在用着一张。可是老公嫌它小。当年买的时候没研究好,买了这小张的,应该一岁就坐不下了。如果要买,这次我要买张豪华又耐用到她四岁的,这样才值得。花一次大钱好过过后手尾很多。
现在刚好信用卡累计分数能够换到一张halford solaris的car seat.看起来蛮豪华的。就等着换来用吧。希望它实用又耐用。
养小孩不容易啊。
Monday, August 11, 2014
How long can a car last?
It is normal to have a thought of spending after you tried to save money for some time.
I have been struggle to resrict my spending for the past few months. Though the saving still not much. maybe only 5 - 10% of my salary. I want to save more!
Save more for what? i don't know. At least this is a better me. Spent too much for the last few years.
Save more, then i can invest more.
And now, my myvi is about 5 years old. She indeed is a good car. Affordable, average-quality. Nothing to complain about. but people always like new stuff.
My plan is to get a new car 2 years after i settle the 5-year car loan. so that would be in 2016. and.. i can always plan earlier. haha. so starting mid 2015 i can start looking for car?
Actually it is still functioning well. Just some scratch on her body which i always ignore. haha.
For a family of 4, sometimes it is quite small especially when we go travelling.
So i need a bigger car.
So what car model next?
Thought of a Ford. But my husband said he doesn't like this brand.
Maybe a toyota?
But please, no toyota vios or honda city.
This two cars are plenty on the road. And you might accidentally mistaken others' as yours. I did it before to my myvi. The exactly same color myvi parked side to side. The car owner also want to get her car at the same time. That's the embarassing moment that i open her car door. haha!
Maybe a toyota corrola altis?
Previously interested in hyundai elantra too. But my friend's experience scared me. sometimes there is some defect car that if you are not lucky enough then you will own it. He is one of the unlucky one. Too many defects make me scared.
So.. toyota corrola altis? or any other suggestion?
I have been struggle to resrict my spending for the past few months. Though the saving still not much. maybe only 5 - 10% of my salary. I want to save more!
Save more for what? i don't know. At least this is a better me. Spent too much for the last few years.
Save more, then i can invest more.
And now, my myvi is about 5 years old. She indeed is a good car. Affordable, average-quality. Nothing to complain about. but people always like new stuff.
My plan is to get a new car 2 years after i settle the 5-year car loan. so that would be in 2016. and.. i can always plan earlier. haha. so starting mid 2015 i can start looking for car?
Actually it is still functioning well. Just some scratch on her body which i always ignore. haha.
For a family of 4, sometimes it is quite small especially when we go travelling.
So i need a bigger car.
So what car model next?
Thought of a Ford. But my husband said he doesn't like this brand.
Maybe a toyota?
But please, no toyota vios or honda city.
This two cars are plenty on the road. And you might accidentally mistaken others' as yours. I did it before to my myvi. The exactly same color myvi parked side to side. The car owner also want to get her car at the same time. That's the embarassing moment that i open her car door. haha!
Maybe a toyota corrola altis?
Previously interested in hyundai elantra too. But my friend's experience scared me. sometimes there is some defect car that if you are not lucky enough then you will own it. He is one of the unlucky one. Too many defects make me scared.
So.. toyota corrola altis? or any other suggestion?
Thursday, August 7, 2014
那天卖掉的daiman
继上篇糊涂的卖掉daiman后,最近的股市是不是满堂红啊?好多个股都下跌五到十巴仙。
大家是不是在想我也卖的阴差阳错下赚了一些啊?
其实我很不服没买到,所以过后又在RM3.83买进了比之前还多的股票。然后它就跌了。
所以不小心赚来的,又被亏掉了。
真应该顺应老天的安排哪。
不过我不怕啦。放着,然后观察,长期持有才是王道!
大家是不是在想我也卖的阴差阳错下赚了一些啊?
其实我很不服没买到,所以过后又在RM3.83买进了比之前还多的股票。然后它就跌了。
所以不小心赚来的,又被亏掉了。
真应该顺应老天的安排哪。
不过我不怕啦。放着,然后观察,长期持有才是王道!
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